• Betsy Ross

Don't Be So Quick to Judge

There seems to be an unfathomable relationship between seeing life in a positive light and seeing life as always depressing. When someone commits suicide, leaving behind a family, friends, a good job.....maybe a newborn....maybe a new spouse....regardless of their situation, internal demons play tricks on our mind. Some people don't seem to understand, or WANT to understand that our mind is an amazing organ that plays a massive role in everything in our life. But it also depends on what we "feed" it; too many pills, alcohol, drugs--of all types--all chemically alter the brain in some way. Of course, a healthy diet and exercise help nurture it, but what about the the information we absorb? The negative tweets and posts we read and scroll continuously for hours on end? What about the info we accept as "fact" and those that are "opinion"?


Life teaches us lessons throughout our life, good and bad. The emotions and impressions of these events help develop who we become. The military has its processes to break down what's considered "comfortable" and turn it into a utilization tool to survive through various situations you wouldn't normally encounter (at least, for those living in a location that doesn't see war on their front doorstep on a typical day). Now, what happens when you come home?


Not all veterans struggle when they transition out of the military. However, many do. The VA does have some bad apples but it is also trying to process way too many applicants that ask for help all at once. Because of this, many veterans slip through cracks. Now that more resources and organizations are coming together, veterans are still being missed. Since resources are limited, all those that seek help have to be sorted and meet a criteria. But every individual has a story, a situation, a bind, a past; so how can we say we "support veterans" and our military if this issue has been going on for many years without prevail? Is it because they have to still be wearing a uniform to have credibility? Wouldn't this enforce why many veterans feel to have lost a purpose now that they "don't belong" to the "cool club" anymore?


Some veterans challenge this. "Once a soldier, always a soldier"; "once a Marine, always a Marine". Or, if we trained to survive before, we can do it again in the civilian world. But what's avoided to question or be concerned with: Is that it? Even if a service member never deployed, what if that fact won't haunt them forevermore? What if something ELSE happened within the ranks or within the barracks during their time of service? You never know.


It's fun to act like a badass now that you can simply reflect and say "I did that"; but never assume that all veterans are able to continue with resilience and determination. For many, the military was a life-changer, in all aspects. Don't be so quick to judge.


~Keep Fighting the Fight~


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